Being “Cool” in MiddleSchool A new study shows thatgentle and quiet kids in middle school will grow up to rule. Or, at least,they’ll live healthier and more productive lives than the “cool” kids will. The study looked at13-year-olds who acted old for their age by having “cool” behavior, such asearly romantic relationships. They were seen as “cool” and popular kids. But asthey grew up, things changed. The study found that these kids tended to have problemswith drugs and relationships by their early 20s. Their behavior was no longerlinked with popularity. Instead, they were thought to be less socially skilledby their peers. Besides, the average “cool” kids, by age 22, did more poorlythan the average kids in the study. They had a 45 percent greater rate ofproblems due to drugs and alcohol. They also had a 22 percent greater rate ofcriminal behavior. The study also found that these kids failed to developimportant life skills. They spent so much time trying to seem cool. They didn’tdevelop the skills needed for meaningful friendships. The study followed 86 maleand 98 female middle school students for a 10-year period. It has somesurprising findings. In particular, the study notes that the so-called “cool”behavior is a predictor (预示) of future problems with drugs and alcohol. In fact, it is abetter predictor than drug and alcohol use in middle school. However, oneconclusion of the study is welcome. Researchers said that parents shouldn’tworry too much if their kids don’t seem that popular. If a kid prefers to spendSaturday nights at home watching a movie or reading instead of going out withfriends, that is not a cause for concern. Many “uncool” kids, they said, domuch better later on than the popular kids do.
|