更新2016年4月自考英语二第三部分：概括段落大意和补全句子翻译

How to Forgive, Forget andLet Go

①Forgiving someone does not mean releasing them from anearlier guilt. What if the person who wronged you is not living? What if theperson is someone who made you extremely embarrassed during school 20 or 30years ago? Letting go of emotional pain does not mean that nothing happened; itmeans that you no longer want to be controlled by it.

②Recognize that forgiveness is not denial. Whatever caused thepain was a real incident. Denying that it happened means it is too painful towork through the emotions. There is no timeline on forgiveness. Some steps takelonger to get through, and it is acceptable to set them aside for a period oftime. Part of forgiveness is understanding whether or not someone takesresponsibility for what happened, and may even show regret.

③Understand that not everyone who forgives reconciles with theperson who caused the pain. There are relationships that are harmful and evenphysically dangerous. While it is possible to forgive the past and move beyondit, it may also mean that the person who was involved can no longer play anactive role in your life. If a person or a situation is not safe, it may bebest not to reconcile the relationship now. Work on forgiveness at a time whenyou are emotionally healthy and physically safe.

④Make a conscious decision to forgive someone. Even if theynever apologize for what happened, determine within yourself that it is fine toproceed without this apology. Apologies should not be asking for forgiveness.Apologies should be offered as an effort of true regret. They should be admittingthat taking personal responsibility for the situation is important. Evenwithout that apology, make up your mind to forgive, forget, and eventually letgo.

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更新2016年4月自考英语二第三部分：概括段落大意和补全句子翻译

如何原谅、忘记并放手

①原谅某人并不意味着免除他们之前的罪责。如果伤害你的人已经不在世了呢？如果此人是在20或30年前让你在学校里极为尴尬的人呢？放下情感上的痛苦并不意味着什么都没有发生；这意味着你不再想被它控制。

②认识到原谅不是否认。导致痛苦的事情是真实发生的事件。否认它发生了意味着处理这些情绪太过痛苦。原谅没有时间表。一些步骤需要更长的时间来完成，可以接受将它们暂时搁置一段时间。原谅的一部分是理解某人是否对所发生的事情承担责任，甚至可能表现出悔意。

③明白并不是每个原谅的人都会与导致痛苦的人和解。有些关系是有害的，甚至是身体上危险的。虽然可以原谅过去并超越它，但也可能意味着参与其中的人不能再在你的生活中扮演主动角色。如果一个人或一个情况不安全，最好现在不要修复这段关系。在你情感健康和身体安全的时候进行原谅的工作。

④做出一个有意识的决定去原谅某人。即使他们从未为所发生的事情道歉，也要在内心确定即使没有这个道歉也可以继续前行。道歉不应是请求原谅，而应作为真正遗憾的努力。道歉应该承认对这种情况承担个人责任是重要的。即使没有那个道歉，下定决心去原谅、忘记，并最终放手。